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Brittany Stoess's avatar

This is so good! I feel this in so many areas of life, parenthood and otherwise. Thanks for sharing 🤍

Erin Miller's avatar

Thank you, Brittany—I’m so glad it resonated! 🧡

Claire Drouault's avatar

Balance isn’t necessarily static. Moving forward can create balance, like riding a bicycle which also requires honesty and hope.

Erin Miller's avatar

Good point. It’s the motion that actually creates the balance. A stationary bike is nearly impossible to hold steady—but once we're moving, it starts to carry itself (and us).

Matt Cyr's avatar

Excellent distinction on these two aspects of living; honesty and hope. Thank you for writing this.

Erin Miller's avatar

Thanks, Matt—that means a lot.

Anna | Tender & True's avatar

Erin, this lands so deeply🤍 You’ve named something I think so many of us wrestle with in the quiet moments — the way honesty can feel like progress but keep us circling, and the way hope can feel like light but sometimes let us avoid what needs tending.

I love how you describe them not as weights to balance, but as tools to move us forward. That image will stay with me — honesty to root us, hope to stretch us.

Thank you for putting language to this tension and reminding us it’s not about choosing one or the other, but letting them walk us onward together 😊

Erin Miller's avatar

This is so beautifully said, Anna—thank you. I think that’s exactly it: both can feel like progress in the moment, but they only really serve us when they keep us moving. I’m so glad the image of honesty rooting and hope stretching resonated with you—it’s one I’m holding onto, too. 🧡

Carll Tucker's avatar

I can be clear-eyed and soft-hearted.

I can tell the truth and still see beauty.

I can be exhausted and still hopeful.

Not because I’m faking it.

Wise advice for all in this dire time, not just parents.

Erin Miller's avatar

Thanks for this, Carll. I agree—those tensions feel bigger than parenting. They’re part of how we hold ourselves steady in any season.

Saima Durrani's avatar

Yes, Erin. As parents, we often swing too far to one side without even realising it. We either keep naming what is hard and forget to move forward, or cling to hope and avoid the conversations we need to have. I appreciate how you framed honesty and hope as tools, not opposites. Thank you for putting it into words.

Erin Miller's avatar

You said it so well, Saima. It’s so easy to get stuck on one side or the other without realizing it. Seeing honesty and hope as tools instead of opposites has been freeing for me, too.

Kyle Shepard's avatar

You stay blowing my lack of hair back

Erin Miller's avatar

Haha... thank you, my friend!

Dylan Macinerney's avatar

Good stuff, Erin, thanks for this!

Erin Miller's avatar

Thanks, Dylan!

Lou Tamposi's avatar

One of your best, Erin!

Erin Miller's avatar

Thanks, Lou!

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Erin Miller's avatar

I appreciate that, Ross—thank you!