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James Bailey's avatar

Erin, so good once again. And important. The whole thing.

“When we choose short-term relief over long-term formation, our kids learn to live the same way—reacting instead of building, soothing instead of strengthening.”

Whoa.

Thank you 🙏

KristanAnn's avatar

From beginning to the end, so many fantastic reminders and golden nuggets. Thank you for these words of wisdom. More containment than commentary ... I will admit, I need more practice (lots more) at this one.

Erin Miller's avatar

I’m right there with you, sister. ❤️

And…thank you!

The Fem Health Coach's avatar

Erin, your unflinching call to step fully into adulthood lands like essential clarity for pragmatic mothers who've blurred boundaries in the name of vulnerability.

Containing emotions before spilling, resisting attention's pull, choosing restraint's long game over reactivity's relief? This reclamation of parental height offers the steady refuge intuitive, hands-on women know their kids quietly crave. Required reading.

Erin Miller's avatar

This is incredibly generous—thank you! Your words mean a great deal.

Kyle Shepard's avatar

Giving me a lot to chew on per usual. Thanks for the continued wisdom my friend.

Erin Miller's avatar

I appreciate you, K.S.!

Janet Cain The Turning's avatar

Our goal is to mature, gain perspective, play the long game, and grow wise. And we are to model the way for our children.

And yet the news is full of immature adults acting irresponsibly and selfishly.

Such challenging times! We need your insights. Thank you.

Erin Miller's avatar

Thank you, Janet.

Mary Kate Shepard's avatar

“Children are not meant to help us figure out who we are—even if raising them inevitably shapes us. We are meant to usher them into who they are becoming.

That requires height. Not dominance, but distance and perspective to see further than they can.”

This imagery is so helpful, and such a key distinction.

Just beautifully crafted as always, giving us more questions to ask ourselves and more opportunities for introspection.

I’m always very thankful for Tuesdays. ❤️

Erin Miller's avatar

Thank you, dear friend! ❤️

Victoria Daemer's avatar

This is brilliant. 💕

Erin Miller's avatar

Thank you! 🧡