Parents who show up as their best selves raise kids who trust both their footing and their freedom.
That belief sits at the center of everything I write here.
I write about what it actually takes to show up this way: learning to regulate ourselves before we correct our kids, telling the truth about what’s hard instead of managing around it, and leading from clarity so connection has room to breathe.
This isn’t content for consumption—it’s thinking meant to stay with you.
This work is honest, practical, and sometimes uncomfortable. But it’s always rooted in what matters most: raising kids who feel secure, seen, and strong enough to step into the world as themselves.
I’ve been parenting for 20 years. Looking back at the seasons, the stumbles, the small wins, and the giant losses, I can say without a doubt that the decisions that mattered most were often the least popular.
So I share them here.
Not to convince you.
Not to tell you how to parent.
But because if you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit in—if your gut is saying one thing while the world is shouting another—you may be exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Being unpopular comes at a cost.
Clarity always does.
But the payoff is so, so sweet.
What Readers Are Saying…
I’m a growing parent, and a more effective one because of you. — Dad of Teens
Your essays have this rare blend of honesty and generosity. They never feel like you’re preaching or posturing; instead, they feel like a hand extended across the table. You’re willing to look at the uncomfortable parts of parenting AND you do it with so much compassion and nuance that it feels safe to be honest about our own struggles, too. — Parent of Three
This is one of the most beautiful, profound pieces of parenting content I have ever read. It's eye-opening and truly allows a perspective shift. Thank you for writing this and sharing it. — Mom in the Messy Middle
If you’re ready to see parenting in a new light, you’re in the right place.
We don’t have to do it all at once—we just have to start. While being honest about where we’re standing.
